Dear Single Soul Sister!
I read your post on your feed, I watched your video and I saw your story on Instagram. You let me and all of your followers know that this valentines day you will be alone. My heart goes out to you, not because you are single on valentines but because you don't see the gift in your being single.
Here's a few things that you may not know.
As a mother and wife, living with three other people in New York City there are times when I feel lonely. Having a mate will not guarantee that you feel complete, understood or that you will no longer feel the pangs of loneliness. Especially if you see yourself as different or you have a unique gift you want to offer the world, it is easy to forget that everyone will not get you or your vision and often times you will feel lonely. I invite you to celebrate your uniqueness. Once you start the party other people will join. Confidence is contagious and it will draw people to you.
Your Singleness is your ministry. This is a time to really be of service to any great, global or local work you choose. This is your time to explore and discover, invent and create in the great and expanding space of freedom. This is also a time to fail, be flawed, investigate and try again without affecting any one person in particular. This is your time to take risk and know you can and will bounce back.
As someone with a family I know every move I make, every decision I make, can change the trajectory of my children lives. Do not slap your singleness in the face with the ideals of a made up marketing scheme designed to increase sales. There is something for you to do. Let me rephrase that, there is something you NEED to do in the space you are in right now. I invite you to honor and respect your current path and use this time wisely, give birth to that idea or that business. Someone is waiting for you.
Change your perspective. Learn now, I mean right now, if what you believe is hurting you then change what you believe. If believing that Valentines Day requires you be in a romantic relationship and that brings you pain then create something else that is more supportive to where you are right now in your life. I invite you to change your beliefs to ones that are truly in service to your goals and dreams.
Here are a few tips to change your perspective about Valentines Day, I hope you find it helpful.
Lastly, I invite you to love yourself. I know you heard it before but it's worth repeating because if this sounds cliché, if your first thought is that it isn't the same when someone else loves you then what you really need is a deep long compassionate, kind relationship with yourself. You need to hear it again. Not loving yourself is a total violation to the Creator and damaging to your spirit. If this is your state then know that what you draw to yourself in relationships and partners will be on this same low vibratory frequency. This is a tragic miserable cycle. So for you, one more time. Love yourself.
Any negative response from hearing this directive is actually your soul asking you to go deeper. Commit to a deeper love of yourself, be kind enough to get out of your own way. Be gracious enough to say no to the things you don't want to do and be wise enough to know the history, culture and make up of YOU. Be so full with loving yourself that the love bubbles up into joyous overflow and spills out into the atmosphere sweeping up every good thing and returning it right back to you, which just may show up in the form of a Partner who is the love of your life!
Peace & So Many Blessings!
Love Jill
By the way I'm having my first VIRTUAL Healing Circle so no more excuses. You can listen in or watch from any phone or computer using the internet without leaving your house. It's free but space is limited so sign up here to reserve your space in the circle: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/black-womens-virtual-healing-circle-invitation-to-love-tickets-42571328991