"Black Women are the mules of the world" Zora wrote in the book Their Eyes Were Watching God. I've heard this quote several times before. Every time I hear it, it stings just a little and saddens me just a little because I know well the truth of this statement.
I recently had a aha moment while watching a video of three Black Married couples speak on gender roles and all that the wives did to help their husbands fulfill their dreams. When the wives were asked what they would want in return, they passionately unanimously agreed, they just want to be thanked. Right! We may want to be thanked in different ways from a hug to Tiffany's but if I do something for you please say thank you.
The Black Women's Love language is Aknowledegement.
And in a world where we have been invisible for a long time, being seen and heard is half the battle. "Thank you" goes a long way.
for every Black woman on the melenated spectrum, from charcoal to moca to cafe` aulait to spice to barely there and back again,
For the work you have done to Elevate, Advance, Teach, Birth, Serve, Heal, Hold, Feed, Pray, Nurture, Rescue, Raise and Care for the families of this world those not your own and those of your own,
For your tears, for taking the abuse, for your waiting in silence, for your being loud and still invisible Thank you for waiting and doing, anyway.
For giving us a new President. Thank you for your loyalty in all things, thank you for your investment of time for the energy you bring in every room, thank you for your game face, I know you weren't angry, just focused!
for when it was thankless and the outcome was unsure, for never making it all about money, thank you for pushing it down to uphold something greater than yourself. Thank you for using your voice and thank you for silently going through the back door because you knew one day you would own the door and the building it came with.
Thank you like miraculously manifesting something out of nothing. Because your Daddy wasn't a billionaire and nobody ain't never gave you nothin. Even when you were sick you did it, even when you didn't know what you didn't know, you figure it out and carried on.
I declare a new day! Our time of muling is complete! We will no longer resonate with back breaking burdens and thankless servitude! We will still work hard but we will rest and move our bodies and love on ourselves and love on each other! And um we're gonna need that acknowledgment! I call In the energy of Gratitude. I call In the vibration of Rest. I call In Sweet Release for all women everywhere who work hard in thankless situations! Please receive this Gratitude.
I invite you,
in this month of gratitude, have you thanked a Black Woman today?
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