The Hidden Cost of Dismissing Your Power.
- Jill Flowers
- Mar 21
- 2 min read
What Happens When You Don’t Recognize Your Own Power?
You pay for it in ways you don’t even realize, until one day, the cost is too high.
We have been powerful, resilient, and strong for so long that it has become second nature to us as Black Women.
The ability to fall on our knees, rise, brush our shoulders off and keep it moving is an incredible gift, yet also one that has made us sick, exhausted, and depleted.
Have We Been Missing Something All Along?
In this week’s Soul Lounge, I referred to the women Alchemists, and a conversation unfolded.
Some of them could not see themselves this way, as an Alchemist.
They didn’t recognize their journey of survival to thriving as a powerful path of turning
burdens to blessings.
And I have to ask: Has this been our issue all along?
We know the history: centuries of ancestral brutality, human trafficking, misogynoir,
micro-aggressions, and systemic erasure. The sexualization and battering of our image.
The murder of our bodies that comes just short of the killing of our souls.
But what about the power that has slipped through our own hands?
Where have we unconsciously forfeited our power, not because it was taken, but because we never claimed it?
A Quick Vibe Check on Your Week:
Did you play small in order to survive a conversation, a workplace situation or situationship?
Did you offer grace to someone, an organization, a community that did not deserve it?
And did you do it without a second thought, moving on to run the meeting, write the email, get shit done, business as usual?
We can no longer take who we are, what we do, and how we shift the energy of a room for granted.
We can no longer strip our own power away as a knee-jerk reaction, pouring into people and situations that we were never meant to hold.
We must own our power, our Alchemy, as the divine gift that it is.
Because if we don’t, we know someone else will.
Brushing shoulders off? Not needed.
Blessings,
Jill
PS: Let’s Go Deeper
Over the next few days, I’ll be diving into Power—how we lose it, reclaim it, and embody it—as a precursor to the Reclamation of Power Circle happening next Sunday. This is, dare I say, one of the most potent offerings I’ve ever held. Because "the work" calls us out with stinging clarity, allowing us to reclaim what is ours and release what is not making way for the highest best version of ourselves.
I invite you to take a look at the description and step into this Soul-Shop experience.
Thoughts on this post? Questions? Reflections? Just hit reply, and let’s talk.
I’ll be back in a few days with another scribed offering on Power.
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